"Fuck God! All this PAIN. Can His LOVE be real ?" 'Disowning love' syndrome in face of My pain. The importance of my attitude towards PAIN.

We say we love and we should love.

Do we see love in us though and is it valid in us most of the time?

Most of the times it is a fuzzy warm feeling which we call love.

But the problem is that this fuzzy warm feeling goes away.

It dissipates into anger at the slightest grievance that someone else does unto us.

Even it be my own parents, my own siblings or even my boyfriend or my most loved spouse it happens more often than we would like to admit.

Then is love a conjured up feeling that is unreal and transient and superficial?

what makes love deep real and sustaining.

There can be only one answer for that.

Pain.

 

Pain taken right by me brings compassion, understanding, consideration, concern towards others.

But if pain is taken by me wrong and focus on my own pain irregardless of the pain that I inflict on others or on pain out there that is causing hurt and wounds and injuries both physical and mental to others, 

you become the most horrible person in the world.

Even more you get stuck in the me and my pain labyrinth and always complain about my pain, what that person made me suffer and what I have to do to heal myself and get myself up and have endless compassion on myself who faces the world that hurts me and me only.

Or you do others' pain superficially and minimize or disregard or wave them away with a hand with everything you are and everything you are and everything God is to you the moment something hurtful to you comes your way..

 

It is a labyrinth and neither can you come out of it unless you truly start facing the evil you do to others, the hurt you incur to others and face it with determination saying and doing everything to fight against giving such pains to others.

 

That is when your love becomes love

and love lives in you

and goes out to others.

Even to God.

 

Pain. WIthout pain, true love cannot be.

 

If you say then how do you love in heaven?

Maybe with the pain the history of mankind  had lived through previous.

 

maybe this is what God is saying.

when He says love your neighbor as yourself.

 

You Gin Chung